Toward a culturally sensitive application of emotionally focused couples therapy: A qualitative study of therapists' experience using EFT in Spanish-speaking countries/cultures.

The purpose of the current study was to identify specific ways Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT; S. Johnson) could be adapted to better meet the needs of clients in Spanish-speaking countries throughout Europe and the Americas. The results were drawn from responses to a qualitative questionnaire regarding the experiences of learning and applying EFT; 103 therapists in 12 different countries where Spanish is spoken responded to the survey. Overall, the results suggest that the therapists surveyed consider EFT to be a "good fit" for many Spanish-speaking clients because of its focus on emotion, attachment theory, close interpersonal relationships, and model-specific interventions that match cultural values. Participants suggested a few culture-specific modifications regarding how to access and process emotion with men in therapy, translation of key EFT concepts and phrases into Spanish, and navigating the intersection of two cultural values (respeto and personalismo). Fewer modifications were suggested by therapists as they discussed application of the model than while learning it.

The Difficulties in Emotion Regulation Scale-Dyadic version: A new tool for the evaluation of the dyadic dysregulation in couple relationships.

A new measure for assessing an individual's perception of the dyadic difficulties in emotion regulation with a romantic partner is tested. The Difficulties in Emotion Regulation Scale-Dyadic (DERS-D) was obtained by adapting some items of the previous Difficulties in Emotion Regulation Scale (DERS) to the dyadic context. The scale was administered both to a sample of university students (N = 835) to explore its factorial structure and to a convenience sample (N = 833) together with the DERS, the DERS-Positive, the Emotion Beliefs Questionnaire (EBQ), and the Emotion Regulation Questionnaire (ERQ) to confirm the factorial structure and to explore its construct validity. Results highlight that DERS-D measures two distinct features, namely the lack of dyadic awareness and the lack of dyadic clarity, and that configural invariance across genders was met. DERS-D subscales' internal consistency was high. The correlations between the DERS-D and the other measures demonstrated its construct and criterion validity. The promising nature of these results is discussed in light of the potential clinical and empirical uses of the DERS-D.

Contrasting Cases in Two Psychotherapeutic Processes Based on Integrative Behavior Couple Therapy / Contraste de casos en dos procesos psicoterapéuticos basados en la terapia de pareja conductual integradora

The present study proposes an evaluation of the therapeutic process in relation to the follow-ing aspects: the therapist adherence, the items which are more and less characteristic in the treatment and the interaction structures, along the therapeutic process of two cases of couple therapy,one with significant positive clinical change and one with significant negative clinical change, in the couple's evaluation. This work used Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy mod-el, one of the approaches of the third wave therapies.The method was a study of contrasting cases. The similarities and differences between the cases were discussed, reaching the conclu-sion that there are aspects of the couple, the therapist, the therapeutic relationship and the context that may have contributed to the different outcomes. (AU)

El presente estudio propone una evaluación del proceso terapéutico en relación con los siguientes aspectos: la adherencia del terapeuta, los ítems más y menos característicos en el tratamiento y las estructuras de interacción, a lo largo del proceso terapéutico de dos casos de terapia de pareja, uno con cambio clínico positivo significativo y otro con cambio clínico negativo significativo, en la evaluación de la pareja. En este trabajo se utilizó el modelo de Terapia de Pareja Conductual Integrativa, uno de los enfoques de las terapias de tercera ola. El método fue un estudio de casos contrastados. Se discutieron las similitudes y diferencias entre los casos, llegando a la conclusión de que hay aspectos de la pareja, del terapeuta, de la relación terapéutica y del contexto que pueden haber contribuido a los diferentes resultados. (AU)

Strategic use of observer-perspective questions in couples therapy.

Questions are one of the most frequently used strategies in therapy. There is a body of theoretical work on the kinds of questions that are preferred in specific treatment approaches. However, research on the use of questions in general, how they are formed and what specific therapeutic work they do, is relatively scarce in the literature. In this study, we use the conceptual framework and methods of conversation analysis (CA) to examine how systemic questions soliciting clients' perspective on the partners' thoughts and intents (Observer-Perspective Questions; OPQs) are realized interactively in actual clinical practice and the range of therapeutic work they perform in couples therapy. We identified 78 OPQs from archival data of videotaped time-limited couples therapies, a clinical population working with a professional therapist. From this set of 78 OPQs, five excerpts representing diverse use of OPQs were selected. These excerpts were transcribed in detail capturing not only the textual content but also the prosodic, gestural, and non-verbal aspects of these episodes. Using CA methodology, we identified four specific kinds of changes these questions can promote: progress toward relational optimism, support of positive aspects of the couple's relationship, promoting the concept that the couples' experiences and emotions are interlinked, and introducing new creative relational options. Detailed CA analyses of these clinical excerpts allowed us to identify how the OPQ sequences were built to realize these therapeutically useful moves using various conversational resources progressively and interactively. The conversational analysis of these sequences facilitated the exploration of relationships between the ways the questions are formed, timed, and delivered and the specific functions they perform to move the therapy forward. In conclusion, we make the general argument that examining important therapy events through a CA perspective provides a significant complementary vector to quantitative research on the therapy process.

Culturally humble and anti-racist couple and family interventions for African Americans.

Anti-Black racism including structural racism and racism-related disparities have come to the foreground in recent years with the increasingly frequent and brutal police killings of innocent African Americans, the disproportionate impacts of the pandemic on the Black community, and the effectiveness of the Black Lives Matter movement. There have been calls to action to ensure cultural effectiveness of couples and family therapy for African Americans. As one response to these calls, this article provides recommendations for culturally humble and anti-racist couple and family interventions. These best practices focus on the necessity of embracing a systemic stance and a strengths-based culturally responsive lens when assessing and intervening with African American couples and families. They focus on the need for therapists to be intentional about and consistent in engaging in self-exploration and taking the necessary steps to be not just competent but also capable. The final set of best practices detailed relate to assessing and intervening using a strengths-based approach in a culturally responsive, anti-racist, and socially attuned fashion. The article concludes with recommendations for couple/family therapists to develop a critical consciousness, engage in anti-racist practices, and address oppression while advancing healing and liberation, all of which are essential to ensuring the resilience and well-being of African American couples and families.

Perceived Barriers and Needs in Accessing Sexual Health Services for Iranian Couples: A Qualitative Research.

Background: Sexual and Reproductive Health (SRH) and access to related services are the most important issues and are part of reproductive health rights. Therefore, this study was designed and conducted to explain the perceived barriers and needs in accessing sexual health services for Iranian couples. Materials and Methods: We conducted this study on 14 subjects at the Navab Health Center in Isfahan and Behsa Counseling Center in Tehran from November 2015 to December 2016 by common qualitative content analysis approach through semi-structured interviews. Results: The results show that sub-subcategories "Therapist's Individual Traits" and "Specialized Skills of Therapist" formed "Need for Access to a Professional Therapist" subcategory and sub-subcategories "Provide specialized problem-based treatments" and "Rapid and Timely Therapy of Sexual Problems" formed the "Need for Timely and Comprehensive Access" subcategory and these two subcategories formed the main category of "Need to access a specialized, comprehensive and timely sexual health services system." Furthermore, sub-subcategories of "Failure to Prioritize Sexual Matters" and "Lack of sexual awareness" formed the "Individual Challenges of Search for Sexual Health Services" subcategory, and sub-subcategories of "Sexual Problems are a Taboo" and "Lack of awareness of the existence of sex therapists and sexual health service centers" formed "Sociocultural Challenges to Access Sexual Health Services" subcategory. Two subcategories formed the main category of "Obstacles to Access Efficient and Proper Sexual Health Services." Conclusions: The explored couple's experiences demonstrated that the need to receive timely and comprehensive specialized sexual health services because of the obstacles to access is not provided.

The effect of therapists' enactment interventions in promoting vulnerability sharing in emotion focused couple therapy.

OBJECTIVE: The primary purported change process in emotion-focused therapy for couples (EFT-C) involves partners accessing and revealing their underlying vulnerable emotions and responding empathically when their partners disclose their vulnerable emotions. One main intervention to facilitate vulnerability sharing is enactment - guiding partners to interact directly with each other. The objective of the current study was to identify interventions therapists can use to help partners share vulnerability in the context of enactment. The primary hypothesis of this study was that promoting these interventions would lead to more vulnerability expressions during enactments. METHOD: One hundred and five vulnerability enactment events were identified from videod therapy sessions of 33 couples dealing with a significant emotional injury who received 12 sessions of EFT-C. Four therapists' interventions were coded: setting a meaningful systemic context, promoting the revealing partner's emotional engagement, preparing the revealing partner for enactment, and promoting the listening partner's emotional engagement in the enactment. In addition, vulnerability expression was coded. RESULTS: Multilevel regression models showed that two interventions were significantly associated with greater levels of expressed vulnerability: setting a meaningful systemic context, and preparing the revealing partner for enactment. CONCLUSION: These findings suggest that therapists can facilitated vulnerability sharing using specific preparatory interventions.

Study protocol: A multimethod psychophysiological randomized controlled trial of a couple therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder.

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) sequelae often have ripple effects on victims' families and spouses. Yet there has been a lag in the development and study of couple therapy for PTSD. To fill this gap, we present here a protocol for a study examining the efficacy of Cognitive Behavioral Conjoint Therapy (CBCT), a 15- session couple therapy protocol meant to alleviate PTSD and improve relationship satisfaction, in the Israeli context. The study will be a randomized controlled trial examining outcomes and processes of change via self-report questionnaires, qualitative interviews, and physiological measures (e.g., both partners' heart rate variability and electrodermal activity). We will employ a modified remote treatment protocol via video conferencing. The study will examine whether there is a reduction in couples' levels of symptomatic, emotional, and behavioral difficulties following CBCT and whether relationship satisfaction and couples' physiological synchrony increases. The study will also examine physiological and psychological change mechanisms in CBCT. Sixty Israeli couples (n = 120) will be randomly assigned to either a CBCT group or a wait-list control group. Outcomes will be assessed at four timepoints: before treatment, during treatment, post-treatment, and four months after treatment. The proposed study has the potential to shed light on the unique psychological and physiological mechanisms underlying CBCT and will be the first RCT study to employ this unique methodology in CBCT research, particularly in a video conferencing setting. This study may increase our ability to offer effective, cost-efficient, and attainable treatments for patients with PTSD and their spouses.

Emerging Ideas. A ripple effect: Does I-sharing with a stranger promote compromise in cohabiting couples?

Background: Living together harmoniously requires compromise. Research on the psychological factors that promote compromise frequently focuses on individual differences and interpersonal environment. The current research takes a different approach by asking what role I-sharing (i.e., the feeling that others share the same in-the-moment, subjective experience as oneself) plays in the success of a cohabiting couple's compromise efforts. Objective: Drawing from work on the prosocial outcomes associated with I-sharing, we asked whether I-sharing with a stranger enhances couples' ability to compromise. Method: Both members of a cohabiting couple privately reported the percentage of time they spend on household tasks (the Division of Household Labor inventory [DHL]) before undergoing a manipulation in which they either did or did not have an I-sharing experience with a stranger. Participants then completed the DHL again, this time working together with their cohabiting partner to reach a consensus in their responses. Finally, participants had another chance to complete the DHL in private, receiving the instruction to respond with their true beliefs. Results: When relationship partners worked together to complete the DHL at the second reporting, their responses were identical. At the third (private) DHL reporting, consistent with prediction, couples assigned to the I-share condition showed more agreement with their partner than couples assigned to the No I-share condition. Conclusion: This finding suggests that the prosociality generated by I-sharing can promote compromise in cohabiting couples. Implications: I-sharing holds promise as a therapeutic tool to promote compromise in treatment-seeking families and couples.

Multidisciplinary approach to the treatment of sexual dysfunction in couples using a biopsychosocial model.

BACKGROUND: Given the complexity of the psychological and biological pathologies associated with sexual dysfunction, which affects at least a third of adult women and men worldwide, a multidisciplinary approach has been advocated. AIM: To assess sexual functioning, relationship satisfaction, and mood stability pre- and post- treatment at the Loyola University Sexual Wellness Program. METHODS: Couples attending the 6-week multidisciplinary Sexual Wellness Program provided consent and completed pre- and post- intervention assessments. Linear mixed effects models were used to estimate the mean change from baseline to first follow-up. A covariance matrix was used to account for dependency. OUTCOMES: All patients completed self-reported surveys: Dyadic Adjustment Scale, PROMIS Sexual Function and Satisfaction Measures Brief Profile (Patient-Reported Outcomes Measurement Information), and International Index of Erectile Function. RESULTS: There were 85 respondents: 42 men and 43 women. The mean age was 49.82 years (range, 25-77). The largest improvement was on the total Dyadic Adjustment Scale score, which increased by approximately 5.18 points (95% CI, 2.55-7.81). PROMIS scores for global satisfaction with sex life, erectile function, and interest in sexual activity significantly increased from baseline, while the vaginal discomfort score significantly declined. Overall the score for global satisfaction with sex life increased from baseline by approximately 5.57 points (95% CI, 3.03-8.10). On average, men reported a 4.33-point increase (95% CI, 0.04-8.62) in their International Index of Erectile Function score from baseline. CLINICAL IMPLICATIONS: A multidisciplinary treatment approach focused on the couple positively affects a couple's relationship, including global satisfaction with sex life, relationship satisfaction, interest in sexual activity, and erectile function. STRENGTHS AND LIMITATIONS: This study is one of the few to document the effects of a multidisciplinary treatment approach for both members of a heterosexual couple-male and female. Limitations include the narrow demographics and lack of a control group in our population. Furthermore, this was completed at 1 academic center. CONCLUSION: These findings emphasize that multidisciplinary sexual therapy programs aimed at the couple can help address multiple aspects of sexual well-being.

Emotionally focused couple therapy in cancer survivor couples with marital and sexual problems: a replicated single-case experimental design.

Objective: The current research examined the effect of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) on perceived intimacy, affect, and dyadic connection in cancer survivor couples with relationship challenges. Method: In this longitudinal replicated single-case study, positive and negative affect, intimacy, partner responsiveness, and expression of attachment-based emotional needs were reported every 3 days before and during treatment. Thirteen couples, with one partner having survived colorectal cancer or breast cancer, participated for the full duration of the study. Statistical analysis of the data was performed using randomization tests, piecewise regression, and multilevel analyses. Results: Adherence to the therapeutic protocol was tested and found adequate. Compared with baseline, significant positive effects on affect variables were found during the therapeutic process. Positive affect increased and negative affect decreased. Partner responsiveness, perceived intimacy, and the expression of attachment-based emotional needs improved, but only in the later phase of treatment. Results at the group level were statistically significant, whereas effects at the individual level were not. Discussion: This study found positive group-level effects of EFCT on affect and dyadic outcome measures in cancer survivors. The positive results warrant further research, including randomized clinical trials, to replicate these effects of EFCT in cancer survivor couples experiencing marital and sexual problems.

Cost of Home-Based Couples Human Immunodeficiency Virus Counseling and Testing and Human Immunodeficiency Virus Self-Testing During Pregnancy and Postpartum in Southwestern Kenya.

OBJECTIVE: Home-based couples HIV testing and counseling and HIV self-testing (HIVST) for pregnant women can promote HIV status disclosure and male partner testing; however, cost data are lacking. We examined a home-based couples intervention (HBCI) and HIVST intervention costs per couple (unit cost) during pregnancy and postpartum in Kenya. METHODS: This randomized controlled trial is comparing HBCI and HIVST for couples among pregnant women attending antenatal care clinics in two counties in southwestern Kenya. We used micro-costing to estimate the unit cost per couple receiving the intervention as the total of direct and indirect costs for each study arm in 2019 US$. We used a one-month window to conduct a time and motion study to determine personnel effort and resources. We then compared the unit cost by arm, identified key cost drivers, and conducted sensitivity analyses for cost uncertainties. RESULTS: At base-case, the unit cost was $129.01 and $41.99, respectively, for HBCI and HIVST. Personnel comprised half of the unit cost for both arms. Staff spent more time on activities related to participant engagement in HBCI (accounting for 6.4% of the unit cost) than in HIVST (2.3%). Staff training was another key cost driver in HBCI (20.1% of the unit cost compared to 12.5% in HIVST). Sensitivity analyses revealed that the unit cost ranges were $104.64-$154.54 for HBCI and $30.49-$56.59 for HIVST. CONCLUSIONS: Our findings may guide spending decisions for future HIV prevention and treatment programs for pregnant couples in resource-limited settings such as Kenya.

Systemic Obstacles to Addressing Research Misconduct in Higher Education: A Case Study.

Several widely publicized incidents of academic research misconduct, combined with the politicization of the role of science in public health and policy discourse (e.g., COVID, immunizations) threaten to undermine faith in the integrity of empirical research. Researchers often maintain that peer-review and study replication allow the field to self-police and self-correct; however, stark disparities between official reports of academic research misconduct and self-reports of academic researchers, specifically with regard to data fabrication, belie this argument. Further, systemic imperatives in academic settings often incentivize institutional responses that focus on minimizing reputational harm rather than the impact of fabricated data on the integrity of extant and future research.

Pre-Cohabitation Conversations for Relationships: Recommended Questions for Discussion.

Moving in together is an important transition in a relationship. For many, it is often a shift to the next phase of the relationship indicating higher levels of commitment. Whether the partners are married, plans to get married, or marriage is not part of their future, there are important conversations to be had prior to this transition. As such, this article presents recommended pre-cohabitation conversations with question prompts for partners to explore prior to moving in together. To best understand the dynamics of cohabiting that informed the questions, a review of the literature on cohabitation is presented. Additionally, race and culture, religion, and sexual and gender identity will be highlighted as essential conversation considerations especially as the majority of the literature is centered around white, hetero, and monogamous relationships. Created by a group of couple and family therapy graduate trainees based on the literature and their own personal and professional experiences, the pre-cohabitation conversations are organized into three categories- relationship negotiations, household rules, and communication. These conversations are recommended to be used both by therapists with their clients as well as for direct use by partners following the questions presented within. The topics represent a comprehensive range of relationship issues including consideration of unique issues as presented in the literature with the goal of aiding partners in successful management of their transition to a shared living space.

Comparing the effectiveness of Gottman and Dattilio couples therapy methods for mitigating difficulties in emotion regulation.

Many studies have been conducted on the effectiveness of different couples therapy methods for mitigating difficulties in emotion regulation; however, few studies have compared the effectiveness of these methods. Therefore, the present study compares the effectiveness of the Gottman couples therapy and the Dattilio couples therapy methods for mitigating difficulties in emotion regulation of coupled partnerships. Though an analysis of the findings of the present study shows that these two approaches work independently of each other, they are both effective in mitigating difficulties in emotion regulation.

Dyadic digital health interventions: Their rationale and implementation.

While most psychosocial and behavioral digital health interventions have been designed to be consumed by an individual, intervening at the level of a dyad - two interdependent individuals - can more comprehensively address the needs of both individuals and their relationship. The clinical utility of the dyadic digital health intervention approach, as well as the practical implementation of this design, will be demonstrated via three examples: eSCCIP, FAMS, and OurRelationship.

Behavioral couples therapy for brain injury: single case methodology with bi-phasic design.

OBJECTIVES: To explore the outcomes of Behavioral Couples Therapy (BCT) for couples with brain injury. BACKGROUND: Brain injury can result in communication, emotional and behavioral disturbances, leading to higher levels of depression, anxiety and relationship distress. Currently, no study has explored the outcomes of BCT in couples impacted by brain injury. METHOD: Four heterosexual couples living with brain injury were seen at a specialist outpatient service, and attended an average of 13 (range 8-25) BCT sessions. Participants with brain injury and their partners completed weekly measures of depression, anxiety, and couple satisfaction throughout baseline, assessment, intervention, and follow-up phases. Data were visually analyzed, and effects examined using reliable change analysis, and between-phase comparison conducted using Tau-U. RESULTS: Tau-U analysis demonstrated that both the patient and partner groups experienced significant overall improvement in relationship satisfaction and anxiety. Partners also reported significant reduction in depression scores overall. Reliable change analysis indicated improvement for some individual patients and partners, with effects maintained at follow-up in some cases. CONCLUSIONS: The results offer promising results regarding the use of BCT for brain injury in increasing relationship satisfaction and reducing psychological distress. Further investigation is warranted.

Development of an Online-Coaching Blended Couple-Oriented Intervention for Preventing Depression in Middle Adulthood: An Intervention Mapping Study.

Background: Although middle-aged adults in Korea are vulnerable to depression, there are few preventive interventions for depression in middle adulthood. Studies consistently suggest that interventions that include both spouses are effective in decreasing depression and relationship distress. Considering the busy lives of middle-aged couples, it is essential to develop an online-coaching blended couple-oriented intervention. This study aimed to describe the development, implementation, and evaluation of an online-coaching blended couple-oriented intervention using an online program and coaching via videoconference to prevent middle-aged couples' depression; this was done using an intervention mapping (IM) protocol. Methods: Six steps of IM were used to systematically develop a tailored multi-level intervention specific to middle-aged couples' depression. These steps of the IM protocol involve needs assessment, formulation of change objectives, theory-based methods, and practical strategies for program design, program development, program implementation, and program evaluation. Results: The results of the six steps were as follows: (a) middle-aged couples' needs and mental health problems were identified through a scoping review study, mixed-method study, and expert interviews; (b) six performance objectives (POs) were formulated based on the results of Step 1, and intrapersonal, interpersonal, and temporal/transpersonal determinants were identified based on the self-transcendence theory. Change objectives were developed by combining POs with determinants; (c) self-regulated learning was chosen for theoretical teaching methods and practical strategies to change the determinants of each level; (d) four modules consisting of 16 sessions were developed based on the self-transcendence theory; (e) experts evaluated the program and coaches were trained; and (f) the evaluation plan for the program's feasibility, acceptability, usability, and preliminary effects was developed. Discussion: The systematic process using IM allowed us to develop an online-coaching blended couple-oriented intervention to prevent depression and promote couples' relationships. The primary effects of this newly developed program should be evaluated in future studies. This may lead to the increased adoption and implementation of evidence-based and tailored interventions for psychological wellbeing in middle adulthood.

Coping With Changes to Sex and Intimacy After a Diagnosis of Metastatic Breast Cancer: Results From a Qualitative Investigation With Patients and Partners.

Objective: Prior research examining sexual and intimacy concerns among metastatic breast cancer (MBC) patients and their intimate partners is limited. In this qualitative study, we explored MBC patients' and partners' experiences of sexual and intimacy-related changes and concerns, coping efforts, and information needs and intervention preferences, with a focus on identifying how the context of MBC shapes these experiences. Methods: We conducted 3 focus groups with partnered patients with MBC [N = 12; M age = 50.2; 92% White; 8% Black] and 6 interviews with intimate partners [M age = 47.3; 83% White; 17% Black]. Participants were recruited through the Fox Chase Cancer Center Tumor Registry and the Cancer Support Community. Qualitative data were analyzed using the Framework Method and Dedoose software. Results: Qualitative analyses revealed several key themes reflecting ways in which MBC shapes experiences of sex/intimacy: (1) the heavy disease/treatment burden leads to significant, long-term sexual concerns (e.g., loss of interest and vaginal dryness/discomfort) and consequent heightened emotional distress for both patients (e.g., guilt around not being able to engage in intercourse) and partners (e.g., guilt around pressuring the patient to engage in sexual activity despite pain/discomfort); (2) viewing the relationship as having "an expiration date" (due to expected earlier mortality) influences patients' and partners' concerns related to sex/intimacy and complicates coping efforts; and (3) information needs extend beyond managing sexual side effects to include emotional aspects of intimacy and the added strain of the life-limiting nature of the disease on the relationship. The heightened severity of sexual concerns faced by patients with MBC, compounded by the terminal nature of the disease, may place patients and partners at risk for significant adverse emotional and interpersonal consequences. Conclusion: Findings suggest unique ways in which sex and intimate relationships change after a diagnosis of metastatic breast cancer from both patients' and partners' perspectives. Consideration of the substantial physical and emotional burden of MBC and the broader context of the relationship and intimacy overall is important when developing a sexuality-focused intervention in this population. Addressing sexual concerns is a critical part of cancer care with important implications for patients' health and quality of life.

Sexual intimacy and aging: An integrative framework to promote intimacy resilience in couple therapy.

In our work at the Intimacies Project at The Ackerman Institute for the Family we became aware of a gap in attention about sexuality and aging in the couple and family therapy field. In this article, we provide an integrative framework to guide therapists on how to address problems of sexuality and aging in the therapy room. Starting from considerations about the social context of aging and the self of the therapist, we contend that when normative sexual challenges become entangled with stigma, misconceptions about sexuality, limiting gender narratives, vulnerabilities, and defensive postures, they often result in emotional and sexual shutdowns. Through a combination of the vulnerability cycle with an expansive definition of sexuality, we demonstrate how we deconstruct impasses, disentangle normative quandaries from reactive dynamics, and help couples transform their sexual narratives. We outline how we conduct individual sessions to obtain relational sexual histories, utilize Sensate Focus as a mindful touch exercise, and help partners expand their sexual menus beyond penetration and orgasms. We also describe relational skills that may need to be strengthened to help aging couples deal with the ebb and flow of intimacy, sustaining resilience over time.